When we see a newborn we marvel at its perfection so how come we lose that experience? The answer lies in the development of the brain . As we mature we collect thoughts and impressions and organize beliefs the same way we organize files in a computer. Not a romantic notion but a beautiful one…
Being heard and seen can only happen in a safe space in which care and consideration is a given. When there is fighting, demanding, or blaming the safe space disappears, and with it the possibility to be heard, seen, and valued. I have witnessed this pattern between the partners in a couple and also between…
How can I be here for you and for myself without my judgments and evaluations, and why would I want to? In committing to being present in a relationship, I am basically saying that I am here for you and for myself without prejudice. The reason for suspending my interpretation and evaluation of an interaction…
Growing up we have spent much time socializing. Beginning in childhood we acquired the values, habits and attitudes of the society we live in. Much of the time we model our self expression to meet expectations. It may seem impossible to reconnect to the self that has all choices available and is not molded by…
